WWhy do highly successful women feel they should give too much praise to spouses who just do what women do all the time? Kate Winslet is having a “moment” with the TV series Easttown Mare and deservedly. Still, why did she feel the need to talk about her husband, Edward Abel Smith (Richard Branson’s nephew, formerly self-baptized Ned Rocknroll) in a recent New York Times interview? According to Winslet, Abel Smith is a “super-hot, superhuman stay-at-home dad” and an “absolutely extraordinary life partner.” He takes care of her and the children. Although he is dyslexic, he helps Winslet with his lines. She maintains her zen with veganism, yoga, respiratory work, and cold baths. His long hair makes him look like “an ocean warrior”.
Note to Kate: There are acceptable levels of marital effusiveness and then there is the “umbrella for the journalist, please!” Winslet adds: “He did not particularly plan to meet and marry a woman who is in the public eye and has therefore been tried.” And maybe there you have it: while Winslet is not technically underhanded, she could be going out of her way to make sure her husband doesn’t feel so beta.
Is Abel Smith a stay-at-home dad or is he still the head of marketing, promotion, and astronaut experience for Uncle Richard’s company? It seems strange that a man is praised for supporting his wife. Women do this all the time, do you qualify them as “superhuman”? Is Abel Smith’s ego so fragile that Winslet should lavish praise on him, or could he have a panic attack for being a top-notch housewife with a sideline in astronaut experiences?
Or does this go beyond Winslet and Abel Smith and more on the great unspoken curse of successful women in general? The idea, even now, that men are conditioned to resent female success. That feminine power castrates a man and it is up to the woman to correct it, to make the castrated man’s contribution greater by becoming smaller. That all too often these women are paranoid about dehumanizing their spouses and feel they should praise the super-fat to the point where they border on damage control in relationships.
This kind of thinking is the knot of gender dynamics: it never quite disappears. Last year, in an equality-minded Sweden, there was a study on how women who become CEOs divorce faster than men who become CEOs. However, there are always couples who oppose such tendencies and Winslet and Abel Smith could be among them: Abel Smith, growing up around fame and therefore not intimidated by it; Winslet, a protagonist supernova, but who wants real love in real life.
Still, for all successful women, it’s worth noting that it must be a rare successful man who would worry about a lonely second from losing his wife to it. In 2021, it is a tragedy if women feel that they will be punished and abandoned for what they have earned.
Laurence Fox, less man of the people, more man of a millionaire
It would take a saint not to laugh to learn from the Election Commission that Laurence Fox (actor turned anti-Flashman) received almost as much money in donations (£ 1,153,300) as the Liberal Democrats for the London mayoral race and yet , your Reclaim. The party only managed to finish sixth, obtaining 1.9% of the votes. On the other hand, Fox managed to beat Count Binface and you can’t take that away from him.
Other news from the Election Commission includes the large conservative donation from Peter Cruddas, businessman Boris Johnson made a pair last December against the advice of the House of Lords. What a mysterious coincidence.
Back to Fox. His mayoral war chest, like all his funding, came from Jeremy Hosking, the wealthy Brexit-supporting fund manager. Now what? Will Fox finally admit (to himself, if no one else) that he may have gone the wrong way? He shattered his career and reputation for spending over a million pounds of someone else’s money to present himself as a “man of the people” and ended up simply beating out the equivalent of Screaming Lord Sutch.
Still, every cloud and all… At least the only person who seems to like Fox turns out to be a billionaire.
Welcome to Britain, unless you are a young European
Does Britain really need to strengthen its borders against young Europeans on school trips? The upcoming post-Brexit requirements are likely to cut the number of young Europeans visiting the UK by half. Continental tour operators dealing with school excursions say the UK used to account for 90% of trips, but now inquiries refer to Ireland, or previously less traveled territories like Malta and the Netherlands.
This is as depressing as it is unnecessary. Despite the calls, the UK government has refused to exempt young Europeans from the new passport and visa measures on the grounds that it is “committed to strengthening our border security”. Against what: the existential threat of European schoolchildren who want to see the London Eye?
Among those particularly affected will be non-EU European students (usually immigrant children), as the UK will no longer allow them to visit under the ‘travelers list’ visa scheme, which means considerable additional expense and cost. administrative hassle. Who could blame the European schools for thinking that the UK is simply not worth it?
It’s not just about London: the changes will affect towns and cities across the UK, in particular all companies offering educational, residential, hotel or tourist facilities to European students, which depend on a steady stream of young visitors foreign.
It is also another door that slammed shut in our relationship with Europe, all the more heartbreaking because it involves young Europeans, also known as the future. Most of us remember school trips abroad as a wonder. Far from being elitist, for some people, including myself, they were the only opportunity to go abroad as a minor, with the added advantage of doing it without your parents. Young people benefit from these short cultural and educational trips, and UK businesses need the custom, so why is an exemption out of the question? Let’s face it, Britain is feeling more and more closed.
George is Digismak’s reported cum editor with 13 years of experience in Journalism