Wednesday, January 26

Four levels of confidence (and only one will help you in the future) | Happiness Lab Blog

Self confidence is one of the most desired skills. It allows us to make risky decisions and helps us feel better about ourselves. A lack of confidence makes us vulnerable, but an excessive level can lead to arrogance. In order not to fall into any of those extremes, we can lean on one of the qualities to which less attention has been paid in recent decades: humility.

The word humility comes from Latin, from humus, which means land. When we are humble we touch the ground to value what surrounds us. However, that sense has not found much echo in recent psychology studies. It may be because of its relationship with religious beliefs, because of the difficulty of being measured or because of its not always positive meanings. How do you collect the RAE, to be humble means something low or lacking in nobility. However, it is still a tremendously powerful concept for self-confidence, as we will see below.

Trust has two dimensions: one leads us to believe in ourselves and the other to believe in the tools we have to face the future, according to the American psychologist Adam Grant. If we used both axes we could observe the quadrants where we can find ourselves in each project we tackle. Let’s look at each of them.

Blind arrogance or “I’m very sure of everything.” We fall into it when we fully trust ourselves and have no doubts about our abilities for the future. This point is worrying because we feel excessively comfortable and leave no room for questioning. One way to warn of the danger of this situation is observed in the mortality cases registered by US hospitals, according to a study published in 2011 that included data for the last two decades. In July of that year, new residents arrived at the center, which coincides with the time with the highest number of deceased patients. According to the analysis, the July effect is not due to a lack of knowledge of health workers, but to an excess of confidence that, fortunately, is adjusted over the years, as it happens with many other professions.

The debilitating doubt or “I don’t know anything or trust myself.” This quadrant is also worrisome as it empties us of confidence in ourselves and in our abilities. Possibly, when you think of a person without confidence, you usually imagine these two skills together, which lead us to paralyzing situations.

Obsessive insecurity or “I trust the method, but not myself”. We acquire this position when we don’t trust ourselves to execute something we believe in. We trust the plan, be it a business, a personal adventure or any type of project, but we do not feel comfortable to carry it out.

The humble trust or “I trust myself and open myself to the doubt of the best solution.” In this quadrant humility enters the scene in a positive and sweet sense. Self-confidence is a good recipe for life, but no one has an exact science of the best answers to future challenges. The humility to question is a good exercise and is observed in the studies of leadership. The best bosses are those who are confident, but, at the same time, give room for doubt and open up to third-party comments. That is, they are safe and humble. Few arrogant bosses become leaders.

As we have seen, the tandem of trust and humility make a good companion to move in uncertain environments: confidence in ourselves and humility to question what we know.

Four levels of confidence (and only one will help you in the future)

Jericho Pillar She is an entrepreneur, writer, lecturer, PhD in Business Organization and disseminator of research on human behavior.

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