Sunday, December 5

Keys to Leaving the “Post-Vacation Depression” Behind and Returning to the Family Routine

How to wear the "post-vacation depression".

How to cope with “post-vacation depression.”

September begins and, as Amaral sang: “There are no summer days left …”. It is time to return to the routine and many people find it difficult, so much so that we have popularized the term “post-vacation depression”. But is it real? What do we mean when we refer to this concept? Can it be harmful to transfer this idea to our children? We have spoken with the psychologist Patricia Ramírez and the psychologist Alberto Soler about this issue and they have told us very interesting things.

“Post-vacation depression does not exist”

Alberto Soler advises us forget about this expression, because “post-vacation depression does not exist, it is not a clinical term, but a journalistic one”. According to the psychologist, “we live in a society that is obsessed with labeling everything, and with an alarming tendency to put pseudo-clinical diagnoses on normal behaviors.” “Post-vacation depression is nothing more than the slump you get when you return to work after having a good time on vacation. Come on, something totally normal, to which it is not necessary to put pathological labels ”.

Surely all adults have felt at some point this downturn that Alberto tells us about, but How can we avoid passing it on to our children?

The truth is that although we live the month of September longing for vacations, our children are often excited to go back to school. Get together with their friends, tell about all the adventures they have had during the summer, go back to playing their favorite games in the yard or take up the extracurricular activities that they like the most. But, as we always say, we are the example of our sons and daughtersAnd if they see us upset, moody, complaining, or lamenting our ‘post-vacation depression’, they’ll assume that getting back into the routine is an ordeal.

The return to routine as an educational opportunity

To resume the routine little by little, the psychologist Patricia Ramírez advises us to “prepare the playing field” before school starts. “Go naming that September is coming and you get back to routine. But in a positive way, emphasizing what they enjoy at school, as with their favorite teachers or with friends ”.

On the other hand, Alberto Soler points out that the best we can do is avoid transferring the label of ‘post-vacation depression’ to our sons and daughters. “It is true that they have enjoyed a more relaxed time in terms of schedules, routines, etc., so the ideal would be to gradually get closer to the schedules they will have when they start school.”

To achieve this goal, Patricia Ramírez gives us the following keys:

  1. New material timing is great, give it importance and enjoy it with them. We all liked to release a new case or a nice notebook.
  2. It is important that your room is tidy. You can also change some of the decoration, put a new post that they choose, change the location table, throw away all the material that does not work from last year. You want to sit down and do your homework.
  3. Take care of your expressions. Do not verbalize that it is a bore to return to work because they will copy those comments and use them against the school.
  4. Let him know that he has your support, that he is going to learn new things and that he is growing, not only in height, but as a person.
  5. The first days pay special attention and encourage communication on his teacher to know what impression he has, of the classmates, of the subject, of the homework or if something worries him. And above all, let him talk about what he likes. If you start to question him with what he eats, how much he eats, if he behaves well … he will not want to talk to you about school.

In short, we are not going to tell you that coming back from vacation is super fun and that the ideal is not to feel this downturn that usually accompanies us in September, but we can adopt other points of view that help us to carry it as best as possible and not move it to our kids. It is important that we let them know that the end of the holidays is necessary to enjoy them. After all, living in a perpetual vacation state wouldn’t be funny, don’t you think?

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