Friday, October 15

Lessons from ‘the best’ for times of crisis | Happiness Lab Blog



The current covid situation that we live in has not only put the world economy in check, but is also posing a litmus test for many people on a personal level. If there is something that distinguishes the ‘best’ it is how they face adversity when they come. What lessons can we learn from them?

1. To succeed you have to learn to suffer

In life, the conditions are never desirable. Those who aspire to conquer high goals have to learn to sail in strong winds. Setbacks – and not a few – always end up appearing along the way. Complaining is wasting time and does not solve anything. As our champion Rafa Nadal once pointed out: “No excuse made me win a match.”

2. Denying reality or looking the other way does not change it

In life there are only two options: either accept the existing conditions or accept the responsibility to change them. Being the victim or the protagonist is the only thing that will really make a difference in your life. Life is about admitting responsibility and then taking responsibility. Your self-responsibility is your power. Face reality as it is, not as it was or how you would like it to be.

3. Whenever it rains, it clears, but nothing is immediate

Things don’t change from one day to the next. There are times to sow, to reap, and to endure. Now what we have to do is endure the downpour and sow in the medium and long term. Today’s situation requires emotional maturity to work harder, quit, buckle down, and be patient. Resilience, the ability to stretch the border of pain, is key in the current situation. Being resilient is not having the strength to continue, but to continue even if you don’t have the strength.

4. Asking for help is from smart people

Nobody knows everything and nobody does everything right. Therefore, the solutions do not always have to come from you. Smart people seek levers that allow them to solve their affairs with the least consumption of time, effort and energy. When you ask for help, you gain in effectiveness and efficiency. When you ask for help, your power multiplies. Do not be a victim of pride – characteristic of the self-sufficient – and let yourself be helped. With others it is always easier.

5. The harder life is, the more important is affection

Affective shelters are the best place to go in times of storm; that’s where we are going to feel wrapped up and comforted. Affection is the best restorative that exists to regain self-confidence and overcome adversity. Emotional supports are not optional, but a necessity. Without affection, life becomes more difficult.

6. A good attitude changes everything

Reality can be faced from denial and rejection or from acceptance and learning. A good attitude has the power to transform any event. “The world is full of suffering,” Hellen Keller said, “but it is full of people who have overcome it and in their struggle discovered something of value.” There are many things that are beyond our control, but there is one that always belongs to us: our attitude, how we react to everything that happens to us. No one can intervene there. An attitude is a response, it is chosen. People with a good attitude do better in life. The attitude you take in life is the one that life will take with you.

7. Gratitude is a surefire remedy for almost everything

The science of happiness It has found that those who express gratitude regularly and do not take what they have for granted are happier. Grateful people don’t ignore problems, but they also don’t ignore what they have. Gratitude protects us against depression because it helps the individual turn their attention to the positive. Thanks to gratitude, negative events lose strength. Gratitude makes us see that, despite the misfortunes, life is worthwhile in general terms.

Francisco Alcaide Hernandez He is the author of the ‘bestseller’ ‘Learning from the best’. www.aprendiendodelosmejores


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