Monday, November 29

Single-parent families grow 10% in the last year

«I reached a certain age and I considered being a mother because I have always liked children. In the end, I wanted to experience what it means to be a mother, but I was of an age that, biologically, could not be extended any further, so I went to a private clinic – I was already older for public treatment – and on the third attempt Carles took hold. , thanks to an in vitro ». Concha and Carles’ is one of the 212,000 single-parent families in the Valencian Community, a figure that has grown by 9.6 percent in the year of the pandemic. The health crisis has undoubtedly been a trigger for this increase.

The typology of family nuclei formed by only one of the parents with children is very varied: from people who like Concha Mora decide to be single mothers; others as a consequence of the death of one of the parents; more and more situations of separations without maintenance; or the most dramatic, those of victims of sexist violence. «I think that the Administration should help single-parent families more. I am lucky that I have no problems in this regard, but there are many people who are alone with their children for various reasons and would need more social support. There are some critical situations, especially victims of gender violence, ”says Concha Mora, a Primary Care physician.

Carles came into his life when he was 43 years old and the little one is already seven. “He sometimes he says that he would like to have a father, because at school everyone has one, but at his level I have been explaining it to him so that he understands it, and his behavior at school is totally normal and his relationship with his friends too », says the mother, who does not consider it to be It is a problem to undertake an adventure of this caliber alone.

Anyway, the road is not easy. I already imagined it, but time has confirmed it. «It’s hard at times, because you take it all. It is true that sometimes I need to rest or disconnect and it becomes complicated. Especially since all the decisions are yours, and some are difficult “, explains Concha. The doctor assures that on the other side of the scale is “the bond that is created with your son, which is very intense and affectionate. There is a lot of mutual affection ».

«Monomarental» families, beyond the semantic debate

The use of the term helps to put into context the greater vulnerability of women


83.4 percent of the nuclei of the Community formed by only one of the parents are single-parent maternal families, although for years the equality policy has promoted the term “monomarental”. Also, NGOs such as Save the Children prefer to speak of these homes as “monomarental” because women with dependent children are one of the most vulnerable groups and with a high risk of poverty rate, higher than among men.

The Royal Academy of the Language does not admit the term “monomarental”, and from the Foundation of Urgent Spanish (FundeuRAE) they explain that the word “seems to have been created by assigning parental a meaning that, in reality, is not its own, since it does not it has to do with ‘father’, but rather with ‘progenitor’ – it comes from the Latin parentalis, from parens (‘father or mother’), present participle of the verb parire (‘give birth, engender’) -. »

If the «monomarental» use is accepted, Fundeu considers that it would displace the single parent, «and the entire parental family, to a place that does not correspond to them in the language —including the inconsistency of joining the Greek prefix mono— (or the more appropriate Latin uni-), to a voice, parental, which would only refer to one, the father, and not to two or one of two parents—. ”

«In order not to leave this semantic niche empty», Fundeu and proposes as «appropriate» the expressions maternal / mother / woman single parent family and paternal / father / male single parent family.

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