There is no single valid, correct or adequate family model. That is why explaining to our creatures that families are diverse is simply bringing them closer to reality. It is not a questionable issue or subject to our belief system, it is an irrefutable fact, since there are many ways to establish emotional and family ties and that, fortunately, all of them respond to our current social reality.
The Doctor in Psychology and co-educator, Sandra Molines Borrás, affirms that it is important to tell boys and girls what love is, and “not only between men and women, but love between people; regardless of sex, age, origin, skin color or diversity ”.
It affirms that “care, respect, good treatment of living beings, is an essential value to work at an educational level.” Love allows us to live better, develop empathy and foster optimal relationships for child development. The counselor and psychologist Natalia Redondo tells us that the diversity in society is increasingly reflected in neighboring yards, in parks or in classrooms, and that “adults only have to make sure that children avoid feeling prejudices and stereotypes that do not contribute to what is really important: that the family (one’s own or someone else’s) is the place to feel loved and protected ”.
“We can explain diversity with words, songs, with images, and of course, with the true demonstration of love. From childhood one of the main learning tools is imitation, hence both families and teachers practice displays of affection and affection ”, says Sandra Molines. Estefanía del Pozo She is a teacher of Early Childhood Education and a psychopedagogue, on her Instagram account, My educational blackboard, share many resources to accompany, play and teach. He tells us: “Without a doubt, the tool that can help children to understand this issue, to see the diversity of families and above all, to respect them, is children’s literature.” Some of the titles that Del Pozo recommends are: “Families of Oh! Mami Blue, where we can see how through a rhymed text we have as many families as there are ways of loving. He also bets on Atime I understand by Carmen Mateo, which talks about adoption as the main topic, and for the little ones, Federico F.Federico and their families by Mili Hernández, where the protagonist Federico loves all families equally ”.
The psychologist Redondo believes that the best way to explain something is by example. “If we want children to see in a natural way the love relationship between men or between women, they need to see that we adults normalize it and we do not feel it as a taboo. We must focus on what is really important, that love is built and based on caring for oneself and the other regardless of the gender or sexual orientation of the parents ”. Natalia Redondo believes that children understand everything we tell them and we must normalize the situations that arise. She assures: “Sometimes, we find that it is the families themselves who reject the diverse models of family, that is why it is important that in schools and in the rest of the social spheres they can have diverse models that represent and include all possible realities. ”.
Regarding bullying at school for having a family formerly considered “different”, Sandra Molines affirms that it is essential that our girls and boys understand that abuse is unacceptable, that if we see bullying and do not report it, we are accomplices of that injustice. “In a bullying situation, the majority public (peer group) is aware of these behaviors and usually does nothing to remedy them. Our objective has to be not to allow that role of passive observer in the face of the violent situation that harassment supposes ”.
The three experts believe that diversity issues must be addressed, highlighted in the classrooms, not allowing imbalances of power among students, neither status nor privileges. “All people are the same because we are all different, none is worth more than another. Insults, contempt and signs of aggression as a society impoverish and denigrate us. In childhood it does not have to be a possibility and less because of a mismanagement of diversity ”, says Molines. And he concludes: “It is necessary to review our archetypes and the stereotyped and rigid image that we have of the concept of families, review our language, the images in textbooks and movies. And to offer alternatives so that our girls and boys can dream, (because they will have previously visualized on many occasions), a world full of different happy people loving each other and enjoying each other in a thousand different ways ”.
Eddie is an Australian news reporter with over 9 years in the industry and has published on Forbes and tech crunch.